Change is hard, is what we say – and hence, what we come to expect – when we try to do it.
One of the reasons it’s hard is because as individuals and even more as teams or groups in organisations, we find it incredibly difficult to look at our shadows.
We do not fully embrace our dysfunctions. We tell ourselves a better story about how it wasn’t our fault something went wrong. Surely if Bob hadn’t, or Shirley had…
There’s usually a moment, well before you become cynical or disconnect, where you can still shift the plot. And even if it feels “FUBAR”, you can still stand up and try to repair, at least in the connection.
Where did your shadows prevent you from changing?